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Relationship Coaching for Couples Who Want More Connection—Not Just Conflict Resolution
Your relationship is already good.
You care about each other. You’ve built something meaningful.
There’s love here. Commitment. Even joy.
But maybe there are a few places where you keep missing the mark.
You’re hitting the same communication snags, even when you both mean well.
You’re navigating mismatched needs or desires—emotionally, sexually, or in your day-to-day life.
Or maybe you're just craving more: more depth, more clarity, more connection.
You’re not in crisis. You don’t want to start over.
You just want this to feel as good as you know it could.
This Is Coaching for Couples Who Are Ready to Grow—Together
Whether you’re monogamous, polyamorous, somewhere in-between, or still figuring that out—this space is built for you. A place where each person can fully express who they are, while building something shared and sacred together. We’ll work on:
• Communication that lands—learning how to speak and listen with less defensiveness and more clarity, compassion, and presence
• Understanding emotional patterns—attachment styles, nervous system responses, and the way your internal aspects shape how you love
• Autonomy within intimacy—reclaiming your individuality while strengthening your bond
• Boundaries that feel good—not rigid walls or anxious appeasement, but clear, loving edges
• Erotic compatibility—exploring how your Erotic Blueprint types and desires can meet, dance, and evolve together
This isn’t crisis counseling or couples therapy. It's an intentional space to grow—consciously, creatively, and in connection.
All Relationship Styles Are Welcome Here
Monogamous. Polyamorous. Kinky. Queer. Neurodivergent. Hetero. Spiritually-rooted. Secular. Platonic. Romantic.
I work with all kinds of partnerships, because what matters most isn’t the structure.
It’s that you both want to show up more fully and meet each other with truth and care.
Some of my clients are long-term nesting partners. Some are co-parents or newer couples navigating big next steps.
Some are play partners, committed throuples, or exploring non-monogamy with open hearts.
What they have in common is this: a desire to feel more deeply connected, without losing themselves in the process.
This is coaching for real people in real relationships—where nuance, honesty, and depth are welcome.
What It’s Like to Work Together
My style is conversational, therapeutic, and grounded in emotional safety.
This isn’t about labeling anyone the problem or over-intellectualizing your patterns.
It’s about helping you understand yourselves—and each other—on a nervous system level, with tools that actually work in real life.
I pull from attachment theory, Internal Family Systems (IFS), Polyvagal Theory, Erotic Blueprints™, and deep intuitive presence. Sessions flow naturally and meet you where you are. Sometimes light, sometimes intense—but always grounded, safe, and led with care. We’ll go as deep as you’re ready for—and sometimes, a little deeper than you thought you could.
About Me
I’m Tigress Lily—relationship coach, certified Erotic Blueprints™ Coach, professional Dominatrix, and a lifelong student of what makes love feel safe, alive, and deeply true. I’ve lived across the relationship spectrum: 15 years in a devoted monogamous partnership, followed by years of thriving in polyamorous dynamics and relationship anarchy. I’ve experienced the beauty and mess of long-term intimacy, the disorientation of losing myself in love, and the radical power of reclaiming connection from a place of self-trust and wholeness. Professionally, I bring a grounded, trauma-informed lens to relationship work.
My training includes:
• Certified Erotic Blueprints™ Coach (trained under Jaiya Ma)
• Professional Dominatrix Training at Mistress Malissia’s Dominatrix Academy
• Mentorship with Kimi Inch, expert in conscious kink and somatic release
• Study in Internal Family Systems (IFS), Polyvagal Theory, and attachment theory
• Facilitator and workshop leader in conscious kink, emotional intelligence, and relational embodiment
In every session, I hold space for both partners to be fully seen—without shame, without blame, and without the need to collapse who you are for connection. Whether you're monogamous, polyamorous, kinky, neurodivergent, spiritually rooted, or still figuring things out—I meet you as you are.
My work blends structure and soul, erotic awareness and emotional fluency, autonomy and sacred intimacy. You don’t have to choose between being yourself and being loved. You get to have both.
Let’s Take Your Relationship Deeper
You don’t have to be falling apart to invest in your love.
You just have to believe in what’s possible—and be willing to reach for it.
Let’s create a relationship that doesn’t just function…but fulfills you.