When love is strong —
but desire keeps missing
You care about each other. You’ve built something real. And still, turn‑on can feel confusing or inconsistent. Conversations loop. Pressure replaces play.
You may notice:
You’re speaking different “dialects” of desire—and keep misunderstanding signals
Initiation feels high‑stakes (or goes silent)
Boundaries are either too rigid or too porous
You want more play, polarity, and permission—without losing safety or self
The Erotic Blueprints™ give you a clear map of how you each get turned on—so you can stop guessing and start connecting.
A shared language for desire
The Blueprints describe how your body and psyche experience arousal—through Sensation, Energetic, Sexual, Kinky, and Shapeshifter patterns.
Once you see your unique mix, you can design touch, timing, and turn‑on that actually work for both of you.
3 benefits of understanding your Erotic Blueprint:
Why work with Lily
Trauma‑informed. Discreet. Results‑oriented.
I’m Tigress Lily—a certified Erotic Blueprints™ Coach with advanced training in Polyvagal Theory, Internal Family Systems (IFS), and somatic methods. I coach couples and individuals who want depth and clarity. My approach blends emotional safety with practical structure, so you leave each session with tools you can use that same week.
Certified Erotic Blueprints™ Coach
Polyvagal • IFS • Somatic integration
10+ years in leadership & facilitation
Known for attuned, grounded, shame‑free coaching
Discreet, LGBTQIA+ affirming, kink‑aware, non‑judgmental.
How it works
Clarity and connection—in three steps
This isn’t surface-level sex coaching. This is about coming home to your erotic truth. I’ve helped clients:
Reclaim pleasure after years of disconnection or numbness
Heal shame and internalized conditioning around desire
Deepen intimacy in long-term partnerships through Blueprint understanding
Explore kink or power dynamics in a way that feels conscious and safe
Feel fully seen—sometimes for the first time—in their authentic erotic identity
My coaching is always client-led. Your pace, your boundaries, your body come first. Whether you’re navigating desire, shame, relational tension, or simply ready to explore new layers of yourself, I bring both fierce presence and a wide toolkit to help you feel grounded, held, and fully alive.
What you'll walk away with
Communication tools that land—so you both feel heard and wanted
Erotic compatibility insights tailored to your Blueprint mix
Boundaries that protect intimacy instead of blocking it
Repair/aftercare frameworks that reduce shutdown and resentment
Renewed trust, play, and polarity—without losing individuality
Who it's for
Monogamous • Polyamorous • Kinky • Queer • Neurodivergent • Hetero • Spiritual • Secular • Platonic • Romantic
This work is for real people—whether you’re solo or partnered—where nuance, honesty, and depth are welcome. No shame. No labels you don’t claim.
What's included
Private 1:1 Erotic Blueprints™ Coaching Sessions with me, customized to your desires, goals, and Blueprint stack
A Free Subscription to Jaiya Ma’s full Erotic Blueprints™ online course with guidance throughout to help you maximize the insights for your specific situation.
Tools, practices, and reflections to integrate the work into your sex life, your relationships, and your everyday experience of pleasure
A judgment-free space to explore shame, desire, turn-on, and self-expression in your own time and your own way
Meet Tigress Lily
Somatic Business Coach | Embodiment Leader | 7-Figure Founder
I’m Tigress Lily—a certified Erotic Blueprints™ Coach, trained Dominant, and embodiment mentor with over a decade of experience guiding others through personal transformation.
My work sits at the intersection of erotic intelligence, emotional attunement, and nervous system safety. I’ve trained at Mistress Malissia’s Dominatrix Academy, and have been mentored by renowned somatic kink practitioner Kimi Inch, deepening my ability to guide clients through conscious kink, power dynamics, and emotional release work.
My background also includes immersive study in Internal Family Systems (IFS), emotional intelligence facilitation, somatic integration, and trauma-informed care—all of which allow me to hold space for the most vulnerable parts of you with clarity, integrity, and compassion.
Let’s Unlock the Language of Your Erotic Self
YOU DON'T NEED TO PERFORM.
YOU DON'T NEED TO FIT SOMEONE ELSE'S MOLD.
YOU GET TO KNOW WHAT TURNS YOU ON-AND FEEL SAFE CLAIMING IT.