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Lifestyle & Kink Coaching: Conscious Exploration, Erotic Power & Personal Liberation
Imagine an experience where your desires aren’t too much. Where you can surrender without fear—or lead without guilt. Where Dominance is a grounded, magnetic presence… and submission is an empowered, devotional art. Whether you crave taking the lead or fully letting go, kink can be a powerful way to understand yourself, build trust, and deepen connection. But only when it’s done with intention. With skill. And with care.
You’re not looking for kink that’s performative, edgy for the sake of it, or built on shaky foundations. You want the real thing. Maybe you’ve been dabbling, but want more structure, confidence, or depth. Maybe you’re brand new, and unsure where to start—beyond the endless Reddit threads and bad porn. Or maybe you and your partner are ready to explore a new level of erotic connection—but need a guide who understands how to make it not only hot, but safe and soulful.
You’re ready to explore kink in a way that:
• Feels aligned with your values and energy
• Honors your nervous system and your boundaries
• Deepens your relationships, your confidence, and your erotic self-expression
You’re in the right place.
This Is Coaching for the Devoted, the Curious, and the Ready
I work with:
• Aspiring or evolving Dominants (of all genders) learning to lead with clarity, integrity, and attunement
• Submissives ready to surrender more deeply—with self-trust and emotional safety
• Couples or play partners navigating new power dynamics with intention and care
• Those craving sacred, sensual kink—not just sensation, but transformation and healing experiences
• Newcomers to kink seeking solid foundations without judgment or overwhelm
Whether you’re exploring for the first time or refining a decades-long practice, this is a space to deepen, clarify, and embody your truth.
What You’ll Learn (and Unlearn)
Our sessions are tailored to you and your dynamic(s), but we might explore:
• Foundations of conscious kink – consent, negotiation, boundaries, aftercare, scene design
• Dom/sub dynamics – what it really means to hold or surrender power with depth and respect
• Erotic archetypes – cultivating your inner Dominant, brat, caretaker, submissive, pet, or switch
• Therapeutic scenes – how to use kink as a healing tool without reenacting trauma
• Navigating multiple dynamics – for polyamorous, open, or complex relationships
• Spiritual and ritual kink – integrating intention, energy, and sacred practice into play
• Kink and personal power – translating what you learn into confidence, communication, and leadership in the rest of your life
This isn’t about doing it “right.” It’s about discovering what’s true for you.
Why This Work Is Different
There’s a lot of kink education out there—but very little that speaks to the soul and the psyche, as well as the body. I offer a highly personalized, trauma-informed space that’s built on years of experience, study, and practice. My work blends kink with psychology, spirituality, somatics, and sacred embodiment to help you explore the full range of who you are.
I don’t just teach you what to do—I help you understand why it matters, and how to do it well.
About Me
I’m Tigress Lily—a certified Erotic Blueprints™ Coach, professional Dominatrix, conscious kink practitioner, and witch. I’ve trained under some of the most respected names in conscious kink, including Kimi Inch and Mistress Malissia, and have pursued advanced study in trauma-informed practices to help clients create play that heals, rather than harms. My toolkit includes training in nervous system regulation (Polyvagal Theory), Internal Family Systems (IFS),emotional intelligence facilitation, and somatic embodiment techniques—all of which support deep, safe exploration of power, sensation, and surrender.
My path has taken me deep into both Dominance and submission. I’ve experienced profound transformation on each side—and I know what it takes to create containers that are powerful, devotional, and safe.
Whether you’re looking for technical skills, emotional clarity, or spiritual connection, I’m here to guide you with honesty, care, and fire.
Your Invitation
If you’re craving kink that’s more than just roleplay…
If you’re longing to embody your power, or surrender more fully…
If you’re ready to explore your edges in a space that honors your truth—
Let’s begin.
Your desire isn’t too much.
Your power isn’t dangerous.
Your erotic self is waiting to be claimed.